In New York, It's Raining Single Women!
There is a reason the sight of a balding, short, pudgy man walking arm-in-arm with a tall, leggy and meticulously toned and coiffed blond is so common on the streets of Manhattan.
Surprise, surprise: Single women between 25 and 44—the prime marrying age—far outnumber single men in most large cities on the East Coast and in the Midwest, but New York City’s “mating market” is the worst of all, according to Richard Florida, the author of Who’s Your City?
Mr. Florida’s “Singles Map" of the U.S. offers some good news for men, but savvy, well-educated, women hoping to find a mate and settle down are out of luck. In the greater New York area single women outnumber single men by more than 210,000. Things are a little better in Philadelphia and Washington, D.C., where they outnumber men by 50,000; but if spiking real estate prices continue to push young professionals to Philadelphia the situation might get worse there.
One reason ladies in the prime marriage years flock to big cities is to “compete for the most eligible men,” Mr. Florida said on his Web site, and intelligent women who gravitate to “vibrant cities are more likely to stay single - for longer, at least - because they rightly refuse to settle for someone who can't keep up with them intellectually or otherwise.”
L.A. on the other hand is the polar opposite of New York (in more ways than one) with nearly 90,000 more unmarried men than women, though, granted, the map does not specify sexual orientation. Phoenix can beckon unattached ladies with a 65,000 surplus of unmarried men—not to mention bargain basement property prices. Single men outnumber single women by roughly 65,000 in San Francisco as well—again no mention of whether they are straight or gay. More unmarried men than women live in San Diego, Dallas, and Seattle, too.
Meanwhile the greater Boston area is one of the very few metropolitan areas with a near equal proportion of men (604,960) to women (606,580).
Perhaps it’s time to go West, ladies.
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Perhaps this reflects the disparity in male and female taste for the opposite sex. The men gather in LA where the bimbos are, and the women gather in NYC where the overachievers live.
Yes, go west women. We need less vapid, smarter women here in New York. We need more Southern women up here.
You may now kiss the bride!
"Kiss her? I am going to DESTROY her!"
These numbers are meaningless. You need to talk about percentages.
For instance, there could be a town that has ONLY 10 more single women then men and this would look really good on this kind of comparison. But then if you find out there are only 50 people in the town, it becomes a bit of a different statistic.
Gives us real statistics, not scare tactic numbers.
To quote David D, "Attraction is NOT a choice." I disagree with Mr. Florida. Nor does "success" have anything to do with geographic male-female ratios.
As I'm finishing Mexican food in Kansas City and spot an energetic woman's swish as she's about to cross Brush Creek, my focus is on her, alone; not the area's proportion of men to women.
I rush to pay my bill and dash after her. I've rented a nearby apartment while a theater company with whom I'm touring is in town. To my amazement she enters "my" building. I get my mail at the theater; she goes immediately to her mailbox. I fumble near the elevator waiting for her. As I, she's middle-aged. One of the most attractive, vivacious women I'd ever seen.
What can I say without appearing to "hit" on her, but, "Wow! You must have a lot of admirers. Or, is happy birthday in order?" Her answer convinced me that she had as much or more between her ears: "No, no. They're all bills. These people are the only ones who can afford the postage!"
If I had to mark a period in my life during which I enjoyed practically idylic dating, for certain it would be during two years in Fort Worth, Texas. I had "What? Me Worry?" simultaneous, intimate "happenings" with women who, I FULLY BELIEVED, KNEW I wasn't interested in anything long term. My first wife and I had recently split and were in the process of divorcing.
I was in my mid-40s. I met (I'll call her Mickie) at a local Mensa meeting. I STILL don't know her age; she could have been 60. She wouldn't admit. Very good condition, I'll say.
I double-dated with a neighbor gentleman who needed me to cover for him with his date's (I'll call her Randy - she WAS) friend. My date and I barely spoke to each other. For five solid hours, Randy and I busted each others' cajones. The next day, my neighbor and I met poolside: "Hey, Randy wants you to call her." She was about 35.
I was an executive recruiter with one of the top 10 international firms. We travelled almost 50 percent of the time. Our travel agent routinely had her newest staff member hand-deliver our reservations. "Charlotte" made herself number three.
Nor did I consciously DO anything to MAKE these happen. In hindsight, having studied David D's and, more recently, Grant's tutelage, I'd say I was behaving pretty much the way each of them "instructs." When I returned to the east coast I kept at it; but remarried within three years; lost my "skills." Not by accidental non-use: for some reason this cat will never fathom, I had no DESIRE to fool around. Then, overnight, a nervous breakdown hit and turned my life upside down.
Returning metaphorically to the southwest, depending upon "Charlotte's" style, as determined by her makeup, attire, and demeanor, she could pass for 35 or 13 (stet.). Indeed, sooner than later I was compelled to "card" her. Hey, her driver's license SAID "18."
I'd seen and "helloed" Naomi several times in our office building elevator. That evening it was after hours. I'd gone out for coffee and a sandwich; she told me she'd returned after cooking her family's dinner. It was she who saved my foot from being crushed by the elevator's repeated attempted closings. ""Got a minute? Drink your coffee in my office." She was 30ish; unhappily (she claimed) married.
I hesitate to call them that, but society understands them to be seriel "one-night stands." I used to think "stand" referred to Custer's battle with indians; only recently have I come to see the more liberal relationship. Let's call it "A Custer Cluster" of very impermanent liasons: an associate's ex-girlfriend to whom HE introduced me (after his fact); a city Health Department professional (taught sign language); a city judge (who, five years after my return east, was murdered); an assistant at a world-renowned museum; and a young society widow whom I'd met at my favorite luncheon spot uptown - she lived northwest some 50 miles; I drove there for a rendevouz: once.
I agree with the more savvy dating gurus: bright, successful, confident, ravishing women get hit on 100 times daily with the same old lines. Mostly by men who think that being "nice," buying drinks, dinner and gifts is their bridge to bed. Wrong. These women are driven to look for SPECIAL men. Not those whom some call JERKS. Rather, to quote David D, "Cocky and funny"...for life. Unpredictable. Quirky. But not unkind.
Manhattan is well know to have 10 to 1 ratio of single women to men. Men use Manhattan as an economic entity only then go to their homes in the suburbs. And woman go with their women friends out nightly where men (except for the young ones) prefer home activities or events. TV, computer, sports etc. Saturday night in Manhattan restaurants are wall to wall single women.
According to recent census data, the ratio of single men vs. single women is about 1 to 1.5... but in actuality, if you factor in guys who prefer guys (NYC is known to be gay friendly) and the men with girlfriends, then the numbers are about 5 single straight women for every single straight man.
Almost NONE of my single female friends have a boyfriend. Nice looking friendly fun women in their mid to late 20s to their mid to late 30s with respectable jobs, but guys our own age think they can all play the field- and thats because they CAN. That leaves us... alone.
It is surprising to note that single women are more favored for a trip to Pokhara, Nepal to see the Mt. Annapurna and more and seek a company with one of the tour guide there. It is very intereing to note that they often write at Post box # 449, Pokhara,Nepal for a tour, trek and stay.
In all why single women go Pokhara and contact a tour guide of age 50+ Is there any one clearify the citizens for this cause?
Being a single woman in USA and within the circle of this country is not romantic always. Many single women have travelled widely to beautiful places of Asia and Europe. Single women now have paved a new avenue to make a tour to countries like India and Nepal. The panoramic view of majestic Himalaya, snow-peaked with peoples always smiling has drawn attention of single women from USA, UK and Australia. Many of them have aske d me where and how this contact would help them find the paradise.
I am at rest without responding the peoples who enquire me all about. And, My e-mail address: williamgibsoner@gmail.com is taking a break for some time. Because I am also on tour to these countries and have no opportunity to see internet. A lovely trek and expedition, countryside walk, trails and village peoples, their way of living and their life styles are quite different and interesting than ours in USA, europe and Australia.
If you are not a peace lover, love not the snowy peaks of mountains and forests, love not the country men from developing world, find no person to be with you for a change and challenge in your life. So, you stay idle and achieve nothing in your whole life time; says many single women.