The idea that women who don't necessarily wear make up and heels all the time somehow need a label is indeed frustrating. It seems that men can exist on any point in the spectrum, whereas women are relegated to being either girly-girls or tomboys (urbane or otherwise). The fact that an article like this even exists really says a lot ... it puts the whole idea that we're in a post-feminist era to rest, or at least calls it into question. So frustrating.