Modern Love Breeds Book Deals

This article was published in the February 6, 2008, edition of The New York Observer.

Alison Buckholtz.
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Alison Buckholtz.

First-time authors looking for a book deal could do worse than to have a piece published in Modern Love, the New York Times Sunday Styles column that tends to provoke eye-rolling among the chattering classes—if they admit to reading the thing at all. But since it started, in 2004, with The Bastard on the Couch author Daniel Jones as its editor from his home in Northampton, Mass., no fewer than nine book contracts have been signed based on Modern Love columns, which, given the vagaries of the publishing industry, is a pretty good batting average.

The most recent deals came just last week: Ellen Graf sold a book titled The Thirteenth Horse Won, based on a column she wrote about marrying a Chinese businessman she barely knew at the age of 46; and Melanie Gideon, an Oakland-based writer, sold a book called The Slippery Year, which was pitched “as similar to Elizabeth Gilbert and Nora Ephron, a bittersweet and wise month-by-month account of the year in her life during which, upon turning 43 and confronted with her own mortality, she chooses to wake herself up, embrace the passage of time, identify what matters (and what does not)—and ‘finally decide to live,’” as the industry newsletter Publisher’s Lunch put it.

Ms. Gilbert’s Eat, Pray, Love has been on The Times paperback best-seller list for over a year, and it’s perhaps no coincidence that this style of memoir—a relationship-related epiphany, told most often by a female protagonist—is resonating with readers and editors. It’s like upmarket Chicken Soup for the Formerly Heartbroken Soul That Has Recently Learned How to Live, and Love, Again.

Trip Gabriel, the editor of The Times’ Styles section, told The Observer that most of the 10,000 submissions Mr. Jones has received in Modern Love's lifetime are from people aged 30 to 50, or “roughly middle-aged. And I guess the reason for that is, they’ve got mileage on them—they’ve been able to reflect, to get perspective on their lives.” Indeed, the format of the Modern Love column itself can serve as a sort of book proposal, with a love- or relationship-related problem neatly solved in 1,700 or so words. And with weekly readership of the print edition of the Sunday New York Times at 1.5 million, with millions more online, publishers smell a ready-made audience.

“It’s a short column, but you can feel a lot emotionally from it,” said Rakesh Satyal, an editor at HarperCollins who bought a book last June that was based on a Modern Love column by Angela Balcita, 33, whose boyfriend had donated his kidney to her. “I certainly remembered the piece because it was so moving to me—it had the perfect blend of humor and emotion, and that’s what this book is going to be.”

“I think some Modern Love columns work well [as books] because they are the most important story of the writer’s life, and it’s the kind of story that’s rich enough to be explored much more deeply,” Mr. Jones wrote in an e-mail.

While Modern Love writers will claim the thought of getting a book deal out of their submission never crossed their minds, Mr. Jones’ column is nonetheless well known for giving writers their big break. And though deals of this scope rarely install the author in a Park Slope three-bedroom with working fireplace—the advances tend to be in the $20,000 to $75,000 range—they do hoist anonymous voices out of obscurity. Many of the Modern Love contributors, for example, hail not from Manhattan or Brooklyn but from fly-over country, at times lending the column a skin-crawling credulity that is responsible for the groans from the city’s Pinot Noir-and-pilates crowd.

“He’s one of the few editors in the country who explicitly doesn’t want famous writers,” said Susan Shapiro, the 47-year-old author of two memoirs and a book on first-person writing; she is also a New York-based writing instructor whose students have managed to successfully publish in Modern Love several times. “How easy is it to get Daphne Merkin to do a piece, and then it’s brilliant. But it’s another thing to take a chance with young writers.”

For writers who have suddenly found themselves on the receiving end of flattering e-mails and calls from agents and editors after years of rejections, Modern Love—which pays its authors $500—can, in fact, be life-changing.

“From the time I sent the piece to Modern Love, it’s almost been a magical experience,” said Alison Buckholtz, a writer in Anacortes, Wash., whose story about her experiences as an unlikely military wife, “A Father on Poster Board Just Won’t Do,” became the basis of a book proposal that sold to Tarcher/Penguin in September. Ms. Buckholtz, who is 38, had written a novel several years ago that failed to find a publisher, and was without an agent until her Modern Love story was published. “Almost everything I’ve published since the Modern Love piece has been published because of the Modern Love piece, I think,” she said. “Every editor I’ve pitched a story or an essay to has immediately responded and said, ‘I remember you. I saw your piece in Modern Love.’”

Writers House agent Daniel Lazar has sold two books based on Modern Love columns: Ms. Balcita’s book, which is tentatively titled Moonface, and Theo Pauline Nestor’s book How to Sleep Alone in a King-Sized Bed, which will be published in April; Ms. Nestor’s book is based on her November 2004 Modern Love column about her divorce, “The Chicken’s in the Oven, My Husband’s Out the Door.” Mr. Lazar signed both women after reading their columns. “The challenge with turning a column or an article or a blog into a book is, Is there a book in it? In both cases, the stories in their books were so much broader than what they wrote in their columns,” Mr. Lazar told The Observer. (He added he’d just e-mailed the author of a Modern Love column from two weeks ago, about a woman who had a long-ago affair with an unnamed actor, and asked to look at her book when it is ready.)

Then there are previously published authors who score new book deals based on Modern Love columns, such as Meredith Hall’s Without a Map, based on a column about adoption from her perspective as a birth mother. And a male writer—a relative rarity for the column—named Craig Bridger sold a book called Surviving Groomzilla: A Bride’s Guide, based on an October 2006 column.

One of the more unlikely, and memorable, columns was Jennifer Mascia’s April 2007 piece, “Never Tell Our Business to Strangers,” which detailed the criminal pasts of her now-deceased parents. Ms. Mascia, who is 30, was working as a news assistant at The Times when she submitted her story to Mr. Jones; the book was bought by Villard in a preempt in August. “Trip and Dan both told me, this is definitely not the standard story we tell here,” Ms. Mascia told The Observer from her desk at The Times, where she still works. “They were a little reluctant to run it, just because of the criminal aspect. Modern Love was probably conceived as a relationship column, and they could have just kept it as a relationship column, but they do try to publish other kinds of stories.”

Amy Sutherland’s What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage: Lessons for People From Animals and Their Trainers comes out next week, based on the most e-mailed New York Times article of 2006, a Modern Love column called “What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage.” Writing in Slate a few weeks after the story first ran in June 2006, Jack Shafer noted that the article’s success could be traced to, among other things, the fact that “the closer a column resembles the structure of a sitcom, the greater its appeal. … ‘Shamu’ shrewdly provides both sexes with room to grumble.”

And perhaps that also gets at what is, somewhat paradoxically, one of the most common criticisms of Modern Love and also the reason for its success. “I read the Styles section religiously, but my eyes glaze over the Modern Love column,” said an editor at Random House. “I assume it’s going to be a woman getting over her divorce. But maybe that’s it, it’s like Sex and the City, it’s a stimulus-and-response thing. It speaks to people. It just pushes the right buttons. And somehow that’s validating, to know that other people are suffering, getting divorced, sleep with their colleagues. They’re unabashedly confessional and really voyeuristic. That’s pleasurable for people to read sometimes.”

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